Heads up, I used some naughty language. Don’t read it if you Don’t like naughty language. If you read it and are offended, I warned you and you saw the title. It is now your problem. Don’t bitch to me.
I am studying the male species more and more. I have reasons because I bag on women a lot, because I am one and I think why not have balance. Plus I hang around men a lot as well. So why not figure them out a bit more than just being able to hang around them and become bored with their norm. Why not delve into their being a bit more. I usually end up becoming bored with my male friends and go off and flirt with the first cute thing I see and end up with more numbers than all of them combined, anyways. (My figurative balls are usually bigger than their real ones.) Not that I call any of the numbers I get, I just like the sport of it all. Why go out on a Friday night if you cannot get a few numbers and act like one of the guys? Guys do this all the time, it is time women start doing it and making use of our sexuality. Getting numbers is a small step, of society telling us it is wrong, there is equality in that. Do with the numbers as you wish ladies, I prefer not to call, men do not so I will not.
I am finding lately my guy friends are having a hard time with their women as I have with the men in my life. One male friend has bounced from one long-term to another long-term with not much down time in between. I do not get that. There needs some healing time. Otherwise you either hate yourself or you turn into your ex. He told me he sees himself currently as a “Beta Male.” I had a hard time with the statement. I have never seen my dear friend in as a beta. His eyes are dazzling, his smile is endearing, and as far as smarts go he is incredibly intelligent. Plus overall I would give him an eight out of ten he really is handsome. So in the look department is he is not a beta. He does have some self-esteem issues which we all do, and that could be the catalyst as to why each relationship fails. It is not just him though. The first girl put the cra in CRAZY! I did not know the other only I know she dumped him. I will bet the insecurities surfaced and she bounced. His patterns are repeating themselves because he should probably be single for a while and learn about himself. Learn why he thinks he is a beta. I told him he will never live up to being perfect, but perhaps it will help him become what he wants. I know many love him. The love comes from his family and his friends. Why can’t he love himself? I got a bit harsh went into my KtBitch mode and said “go freaking work on loving you before you get what you think you want. Stupid!” We had a good laugh and I hope he listens.
Another friend of mine has a girl he’s been seeing for a while, but she will not commit to him. This I find very odd because it is usually vice versa. I know I will sound a bit biased here because he is my friend, and he is a great guy. Now his manners are a bit off, but that is pretty normal I am finding with most men. He is very tidy and neat, which most bachelors are NOT! So a huge plus. He is highly devoted to everything he does, so another plus. I mean his family, his friends, his job, his extra activities, and to her and it is not even in that order. This guy wants to get married and have a family, which is another rarity to me, because most guys just do it to please the woman they are with and then cheat on her. Not him. So again another win in his column. He is a bit shy, but he is smart and kind. What I do not understand the girl he is seeing gets angry when he does not answer her call RIGHT AWAY, or call her back when he doesn’t answer right away. He will even send a text saying how he is busy and call when he can. That is considerate in my book. I get that men are busy and a real man will do what he can to get back to you ASAP. He makes time for her and spends what little time he has with her or his family and even includes her in his family time. His friends have barely seen him lately, so good for his devotion. I am defending him and I do not know him on a romantic scale, but have I mentioned she will not commit. She will go out with guy friends one on one, but expect all this from him. Good for female freedom, but don’t get pissy when he doesn’t answer the phone right away. That is the rub to me.
I told my friend to take a break. He cannot just be her go to man when it is convenient for her and she put all these demands on him. That is not fair. Unless they she is his “fuck buddy” and then she is going to have to get over all the demands. I told him he has to step up and tell her what he wants. If she does not like it then she has to go. She is being unfair to him and you both need to talk. That one is a hard pill to swallow. He really liked her we all really liked her. I am biased though and I do not have friends who are assholes.
My guys are assholes, just plain assholes. They are liars or cheats. I guess that is the game though. I just stopped bothering. I could call one of the guys numbers I get at the bar, but really they are probably just like the others. They say one thing and do another. They are busy or end up being married. I do not get it. Hey that is their shit though. They can miss out on me, plus if the Mayans said world should end this year anyways they can recall the fact as the world ends how they never got to spend that time with Kt. So really it is no bother, there is so much more to life than sitting around waiting to be lied to or ignored. I have to go for a run, a beanie to knit, and a new recipe to make.